Forever Young

Sometimes us young people really think we’re going to live forever.
We worry like we’ll live forever.
We get life-paralysis, worrying over outcomes, other people’s opinions, our own discomforts.
We totally miss the moment. Which is an issue for a generation battling a collective addiction to FOMO.
BECAUSE WE ARE MISSING OUT ON LIFE!

The truth is that while we think our problems are real, as long as we’re alive and for the most part healthy, nothing is really a problem. As long as you are alive, the creative life-force within you, which is your true essence, can change anything and everything. As long as you are standing here on this planet, any perceived problems are just temporary illusions of forgetting who we are, what we’re capable of, and that everything is going to be ok. Things happen FOR you, not TO you.

instead of being mad, sad, frustrated, or picking ourselves apart for some illusive healing – can we JUST BE IN THIS MOMENT, and be alive RIGHT NOW, as we are – total perfection, warts and all?

If you need a reminder of how precious even your mere breath is, no matter whats going on in your life, watch the story of this brave woman.

One Minute Meditation with Coach Antonia

Are you a busy millennial who’s fired up about pursuing your heart’s passion? Do you need some time to go WITHIN and RELAX, but can’t seem to find the time?

Time is a relative subject – you’ve noticed it can stretch when we’re bored or in pain, and zoom by if we’re having fun.
By that principle, what all might happen in JUST ONE MINUTE of meditation?
Here’s the guided video!
LET’s GO!

How Burning Man Can Cure Your FOMO (even if you didn’t go…)

FOMO – Fear of Missing Out.

you gotta deal with it.

We all get FOMO in our lives – especially when it comes to making decisions.

  • If you move to Brazil, you can’t live in Australia at the same time.
  • If you start your own business, you can’t backpack and travel full time.
  • If you get into a relationship, you can’t be single at the same time.

Burning Man shines the light on this tendency to get hopped up on choices and distracted by what we’re missing rather than what we have. Grass is Greener, anyone?

And while we can wiggle our way around it in our daily lives and pretend its no big deal, that doesn’t mean its truly gone – it’s just lurking in the shadowy corners, waiting for its next chance. At least on the playa our little demon friend gets to look us straight in the face!


So how does this FOMO thing work – let’s break it down:

As you bike around the streets of Burning Man, with names like Isfahan or Haifa this year, you see amazing events going on at each place. This inspiration and pure potential of all the things that “could be” if you stopped at one of these places could get you really high.

You’d be drunk on opportunities and mental projections of all the things you could do if only you stopped at..

  • the eye-gazing workshop,
  • the tantra camp,
  • the healing dome,
  • contact improv,
  • the fresh hot pita bread baking camp,
  • the hammocks,
  • visited the temple,
  • went to find a friend,
  • stopped at one of the hundreds of parties,
  • just stayed at your own camp and helped out and bonded with your crew and the new people there.And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.



This is how life could play out at Burning Man:

    • Option 1: You could spend 3 hours riding around the playa, looking at things as a passer by, dreaming about what if, getting really high mentally, and then realizing you’re so sun-stroked and possibly dehydrated that you have to go home to your camp and hide in shade and re-group. And you could end up doing this every fricken day.

The benefit: you felt good. a little mental masturbation. a little high
The downside: you didn’t actually do anything.

 

    • Option 2: You could check in with yourself first INSIDE, before you go searching OUTSIDE – do you feel like dancing? do you feel like resting? do you feel like connecting? getting inspired? adventure?
      Say you wanted to dance. You could bike down a street, and when you find your first opportunity to dance – you’d get off your bike, lock that baby down – and go shake your tailfeather at the dancefloor!

The benefit: you know what you want, and you DO IT
The downside: you don’t get to do everything else, but you did SOMETHING.



Now apply this to the “real” world – or the one we very collectively make up together.

  • Are you trying to make decisions about your life based on your facebook newsfeed – that looks so appetizing with the hundreds of great things everyone else you know is doing?
  • How many hours will you invest in THINKING about all the things you COULD do, and what would your ROI (return on investment) be? I’ll bet you a pretty penny it might just be a good high for a few minutes, not much else. And if you want to get high, i hear weed is legal in Colorado, so just go there and do that – but don’t sacrifice the rest of your life for this fix.

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Break the Habit

Go inside yourself, close your eyes, and ask yourself what it is that would truly FUEL your Soul right now.

Get out a pen and paper, or your iPhone Notes app, and write down the 3 experiences that you would most want if you could have anything.

Then either spend the day with a radar out for this opportunity, or contact people and look for it – AND THEN JUMP ON IT.  Go Do It.


Whether its adventure or what you’ll eat – making decisions gets a lot easier when you have a direction, and it’s not going to come from outside you – you won’t just know it when you see it because a) you’ll be too distracted by everything else and b) you’ll waste a lot of time waiting for it to show up.

Give adventure a chance by first dialing in INSIDE, then ACTING OUTSIDE.
The worst case is even if you have one or two FOMO thoughts, that’s not the end of the world. You can write it off like an expense of living your dreams. Say “Hi” to the thoughts, and then just say “Bye” as easily.
The alternative is not that you’ll have one or two disrupting thoughts, but that FOMO Will Run (and Ruin!) Your Life. You will have nothing but mental highs, “what ifs” and a lot of time gone.

Want to talk more about it? send me an email at antonia@coachantonia.com! I’ll be happy to discuss your personal FOMO survival story with you!  NAMASTE

4 Simple Agreements That You Already Know, but probably regularly forget, That Will Change Your Day

Don Miguel Ruiz – he wrote about the 4 agreements.

Here they are in a major nutshell, in the form of a great image borrowed from the internet :
The-Four-Agreements

You are being DARED to follow these for one day.

Just watch how your complete experience of the day changes when you do!

My favorite right now: don’t use the Word against yourself. #SelfLove

To get the whole scoop, you can read the book by Mr. Ruiz himself, called

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom 

!

XOXO
Coach A

Charlie Chaplin’s MOST inspiring poem

Reading this, you might feel like Sir Chaplin was quite the new age hippie…or love-guru…or prophet of deep truth and wisdom.

Whatever you wanna call it, i think what he says will strike a chord with all of us here at Coach A! <3 xoxo

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As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this
person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens
at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do
and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in
my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew
me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since
I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING
is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my
mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this
connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems
with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing
new worlds are born.Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!

3 Newbie Lessons from a Tantra Workshop

Who DOESN’T love trying new things?

Thats why i decided to just jump in to a full Fri-Sunday Weekend of Tantra called Real Men and Radiant Women with tantric experts extraordinaire, Layla Martin and Herman Ottosson, in NYC.

Here are 3 powerful take-aways from a weekend of embodying pleasure and radiance!

 

1. That thing you do in the shower or under the covers…it’s not actually called masturbation. It’s called Self Pleasuring – and doesn’t that just sound so.much.better?

Self Pleasuring INCLUDES giving yourself a lil’ special attention (if you know what i’m saying), but its not just about getting off. There’s so much more – like organic sesame oil breast massages, jade egg practices (google it), and creating a practice where you spend time just caressing and touching yourself with no other purpose or destination besides the pleasure of that moment. You could, for example, just put aside a few moments a day to touch yourself the way that makes you feel good – even if its just sensually running your fingers over your face and really feeling your own skin. It brings your face to life and makes you glowy.

 

2. Radiance is a choice that you can easily tune into any moment.

Your radiance is that magnetic glow that makes man, woman, child and squirrel gravitate towards you because you’re shining from the inside. Tantra shows how cultivating and activating your radiance can be really SIMPLE!

Layla Martin, the women’s tantra coach for the weekend, had us take a few moments to explore what kind of body language (the way you hold your body, the way you move your limbs, how you walk), what kind of breathing (deep, full body or shallow, rapid), and what kind of movement (dance, strut, jiggle) made us feel radiant.

You can make your own lil’ secret formula. Try it out, and in the meantime, here’s mine:

RADIANCE = shoulders are relaxed and back + my heart space is open and free + deep full body breathing + relaxing facial muscles with gentle smile

Now, whenever i want a lil’ radiance boost i just adjust my body accordingly, and presto! Now you try it! :)

 

3. Don’t Hide – for anyone, ever.

What do i mean by that?

Do you ever walk down the street and get attention that makes you feel uncomfortable? Maybe you barely notice it anymore because its such a part of your regular life. But it doesn’t need to be and you can change your autopilot way of dealing with it.

In my tantra group, it seemed like every woman of every age and every size and look had this experience of getting unwanted attention and dimming her glow in order to try and not be seen. For example, this could mean not being able to walk down the street without trying to cave in your chest and surrender your shoulders, bow your head and keep your eyes on the ground – all in order to just be left alone. Seems like it added some lackluster baggage to everyone’s life.

In class we expressed how we normally react in those situations, how we’d normally actually love to react (maybe yell in their face or express our disgust), and how we wish we could act in these situations. The wishes many women expressed were to keep their sense of self, of openness, of radiance and let the cackling commentary just become background noise or run off like water off a ducks back.

It might take some practice, BUT you totally can stay radiant in the face of anyone or anything they say.  Allow yourself to improve rather than expecting perfection. You don’t have to get stern, hard, piercingly sarcastic or cave your shoulders in to make yourself small. You can be your whole self – have your raw, vegan, gluten free cake and eat it too.

An important distinction is not WHAT you do, like have an orgasm, but HOW  you do it, like with oils and incense and music and love vibrations vs in under 30 seconds as you’re rushing and late for work.

Verdict: The HOW of life matters in Tantra.
What is one defiant act of radical radiance you can make TODAY in under 20 minutes? And what’s stopping you from actually doing it?

WisdomBite – How to turn from “poor me” into “YES! I’m so awesome.”

Stop Feeling Angry and Start Being Awesome

You know how sometimes someone says something that NAILS IT so well that you just have to whip out your phone and write it down?

Here’s one of those moments straight from NYC Personal Trainer, Jimmy P! We were talking ’bout life when suddenly he goes…

“I used to be mad about where I’m at and that life’s not how I want it to be – but then I realized that I haven’t put the work in yet to get the results that I deserve.”

My jaw dropped right down. And as if that wasn’t enough he then goes…

“The only way to know that is to be honest with yourself.”

I know there’s a lot of wise-guys in NYC, but this guy is WISE.

At that moment i realized that everything i’m “mad” about in life not being “right” …well, its not some kind of unfair punishment or insurmountable obstacle…its actually FULLY within my hands to change. Hearing that felt so freeing. And I’m thinking this might be true for all of us…what do you think?

Here’s a question to ask yourself:

What in my life am I mad about or frustrated with for not being the way its SUPPOSED to be?

 

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